funny you ask, because i happen to be a bit of an expert in that field.
let’s not waste any time on small-talk – we’ve got some Serious Money-Saving Hair Business to get down to!
1. you know that thing they do every time you leave the hair salon? the one where they say, “so we’ll see you in 4-6 weeks, right? how about we just book that next appointment right now, since we fill up so fast…”
well, that’s a lie. (usually.) i worked in a pretty upscale salon for a year when i was still in nyc, and even there, under most circumstances it was possible to book an appointment with your favorite stylist about a week in advance. (i mean, if this is your wedding day hair style were talking about you might want to call more than a day ahead, but otherwise… hold your ground, soldier! don’t let them bully you into committing to shelling out another $30, $60, $150, or whatever it is your stylist charges every four weeks.)
2. (this ties in with #1…) take some time to find a stylist you love.
someone you trust, who really “gets” not only your look, but also the texture of your hair. this is super-important. and unfortunately, most often found at the higher-priced salons. the up-side of this though, is that with the right cut, you can easily go two, 3, even 6 months between visits. hair doesn’t grow that fast, and in most cases it takes a few weeks to stop looking “freshly butchered” and grow into it’s full potential.
3. experiment with hair accessories.
even when you know you’ve pushed it way past “acceptable,” you can usually get a few more weeks, (ahem… months? stop staring at me.) out of a ragged ‘do by clipping it up, pinning it back, twisting it around something, knotting it, braiding it – and if all else fails, i heard the turban is making a comeback.
what if – like me – you are morally opposed to bling in the weave?
pick an accessory that’s small, tasteful, and similar to your hair color. check it:

this is a fine example of what i like to call a ‘totally classy hair-piece.’
it also happens to be holding some Very Angry Bangs back while i procrastinate getting a trim.
you can find more totally classy hair pieces by clicking on the picture. or here. i dare you.
bonus: they’re a total bargain, and made by the sweetest etsy-er ever.
4. ask about (free!) fringe-trims between visits.
most salons at the mid-to-nice end of the spectrum offer complimentary bang trims between visits. (of course you still want to slip your stylist a little “thank you” cash, but that’s nothing compared to the standard 20% on a full-priced haircut.) getting your fringe trimmed between cuts will do wonders for hairs that seem like they’ve grown past the point of acceptable. unless you’re doing something drastically short or super-shaped, no one’s going to notice if your sides are half an inch longer than they normally are. this leads me to #5:
5. trim it yourself!
i’m serious. i’m also serious that there are some pretty big rules that go along with this advice. such as:
- take time. this is not something you want to tackle when you’ve got 5 minutes to get out the door for work.
- don’t cut more than 1/4″ in one snip. you can always keep trimming. unfortunately, (i’ve learned) you can’t glue that stuff back on once it’s landed in the sink.
- cut it dry. never EVER trim when it’s wet. hair “shrinks” up once the water-weight isn’t weighing it down. i’m not kidding. don’t do it.
- do not combine this activity with wine consumption, tequila shots, beer-bongs, or any other methods of alcohol ingestion. ”hair-cutting” and “party atmosphere” do not belong in the same bathroom. even if it’s just a party of one…
- same goes for “emotional turmoil.” if you and the boyf just exchanged a few unfriendly words, this is not the time to pick up the scissors. turn to the beer bong instead, ok?
- oh, and use hair scissors. they don’t have to be expensive ones, but come on, we’re classy ladies (and lads.) do we really want to trim our hair with the same scissors we just pruned the ficus with? no.
6. preventative maintenance.
don’t shampoo every day. this is incredibly damaging and entirely unnecessary. trust me, i have that lucky combo of baby-fine locks and hyperactive grease glands – (is that what they’re called?) i will be retiring the day they develop a car that runs off of sebum. but in the meantime, i’ve learned that my hair is much much healthier when i rinse it every day in the shower (and even use a vigorous scrubbing motion, which helps distribute the oils more evenly,) but only shampoo every 3-4 days. same goes for using heat tools – if you must blow dry, aim at the roots and spray the ends with a heat-protecting product. combining these two will almost entirely eradicate split-ends from your life, which means, “hair cut what?!”
(throwing in a little deep-conditioning treatment every once in a while doesn’t hurt either…)
see? i just saved you a ton on your hair expenses. that’s more than that geico lizard can say…
Yay, Diana!
For more cheap-as-free hair and beauty tips, here is another amazing PainfullyHipster post by the lovely Mary Catherine about spending pennies instead of hundreds on better beauty products.
-Amber
by Diana Deaver
Diana came to me with this well-written piece on recession buzzwords and exactly why they piss her off, and while she thought perhaps it may be too “political” for Painfully Hip, I am stoked to present it to you. Diana’s “rants” are consistently a fun read and I’m hoping beyond hope that this might get a discussion going because, for some reason, comments on this blog have slowed to a drizzle (Did I do something wrong? Is the new layout confusing? Let me know!).
EDIT: Ah! Mystery solved. Spinnerette noticed that my theme was making her comments dissipate into the atmosphere! Sorry about that everyone, it is now fixed). To reward you for your patience (and your comments), I have now installed CommentLuv, so you can promote your favorite blog post in your comment.
Now get dressed up in some ridiculous pastel confection and go eat some eggs!
-Amber
Like a good portion of the world, I am beginning to find myself having unpleasant physical reactions to phrases such as, “in these difficult times,” and any advice suggesting I give up pretending we’re not in the throes of an economic crisis and “button up” the proverbial purse snaps. It’s only worsened by the fact that more and more frequently these phrases are being uttered by multi-million dollar corporations who have been silently clawing through well-intentioned posts on entirely non-corporate indie fashion blogs, and are starting to realize (oh, say, half a decade too late?) that “diy,” closet “remixing,” and thrifting are the “hip” thing to do right now. God forbid we start a trend that isn’t mass-market friendly.
(And to answer Tricia’s question, yes, it fucking infuriates me that these marketing departments are scouring personal – and usually entirely non-profitable – blogs, and making money off of the creativity and ingenuity found within, by selling it back to us.)
It pisses me off even more that such sources are touting this eco-friendly approach as the “hottest new trend,” as if it actually were such, and not in fact a mind-set, as well as a way of life.
The sickening attempt at the mass-market sell-ability of thrift – with the even grosser title “recessionista” – is about as nauseating as Wal-mart throwing the words “emo” or even – god forbid – “indie” – on a tee-shirt tag. (cue swarms of high-school girls stashing their Miley cd’s and hopping in the family Escalade to buy the newest Deathcab. It is not my intention to judge someone’s worth based on personal taste. I am simply trying to point out the fickle nature of “trend.” Original of me, I know.)
Ask any true music aficionado if pasting “emo” on a tee-shirt makes it so, however, and you’ll be lucky if the least you get is a death-stare. “Emo” (as well as “indie,” “metal,” “country,” “hip-hop” and any other gross generalization of a genre I might have over-looked,) isn’t a style of clothing. It isn’t a floppy haircut with pink tips. It isn’t even really referring to the music category itself. If you somehow get lucky and pose this ridiculous question to a friendly music-lover who happens to have a lot patience that day, you most likely will be graced with an answer along these lines:
“(insert music genre) actually refers to a way of life that said music style results from.”
Art and opinion are both results of our day-to-day experience, and every day (most of us) wear clothes.
It’s not hard to make the connection then, that the style we choose (if we consciously choose it) would reflect back to our personal opinions on what it means to exist in this world. I enjoy thrifting. I think creating a new look with recycled garments is fun. These are the precursors to my dressing myself each day.
They are not the goal I am trying to achieve by layering just the right diy-looking pieces that I recently purchased at the mall.

I grew up poor. I am not saying this to invoke sympathy or to build a soapbox. It’s just a fact. I grew up in an economically depressed corner of the country in an even more economically depressed family.
But here’s the thing – growing up I was taught that thrift stores weren’t something you shamefully ducked into – they were the most magical dress-up box you could imagine. They were the only place where you held the possibility of finding a brand new pair of jeans, a fantastic psychedelic dress and a perfectly broken-in tee shirt from your favorite band, all in one place. For under $10. And somehow, sorting through all the crap just made finding the good stuff even better.
The other thing my “poor poverty-stricken parents” taught me was that raw materials are cheap, skills are invaluable, and if you have any sort of creative instinct, you’re not likely to find the things you’re dreaming of in a department store anyway. Being passionately interested in fashion, (and – ahem – dressing in “period costumes” from wagon-trail times – I was 9, ok?) it is only logical that I taught myself to sew.
These interests and skills (along with a sense of responsibility towards preserving the planet and our natural resources – thanks mom and dad,) transitioned into adulthood with me and became an integral part of who I am.
I am not a recessionista.
Therefore, I will never stop being a recessionista.
(God, I feel like I just typed, “punk’s not dead…”)
If the world woke up tomorrow morning and this recession was nothing more than an awkward dream, I would still schedule in a quick trip to Saver’s on my way home from class.
Referring to this trend of being more conscientious with our dollars as being a “recessionista” implies that we’re all just sitting here waiting for the big ugly fad to blow over – we’re stoically poking fun, and maybe even wearing it like leggings in a, “These Are Pants – Seriously Guys,” sort of way. We’ll buy in for a season or two for the ironic, eye-rolling humor of it all.
Calling oneself a “recessionista” smacks of that same stale air of self-entitlement, which seems to have brought us into this “troubled” situation to begin with. It implies that – although this monetary shortage (or debt increase?) is actually putting us out quite immensely – and it’s not really fair that this season we can’t buy the entire new wardrobe we deserve – we’ll shrug our shoulders, giggle a bit, coin a new term and call it trend-setting.
Besides, I feel it’s pretty safe to assume the people who genuinely call themselves “recessionista’s” aren’t the ones who are living off of beans and rice at the moment, anyway.
It seems that it all boils down to a desperate attempt to appear (to whom? The rest of the planet, who quite often are living in third-world conditions?) to be a free-spirited martyr of a spoiled hostess – “well, the crudités platter wasn’t at all what I arranged with the caterers, but I managed to show the guests a fantastic time anyway.”
But in reality, this is a gift – we are suddenly given the chance to slow down and think about what exactly it is we are attracted to aesthetically – what is worth spending our dollars on? What do we own that can be re-fashioned? What can you sew when you combine the forces of your creativity and your own two hands?
So I propose this, recessionistas – and everyone else as well (myself included.):
How about we stop focusing on what we don’t have – how about we stop prefacing every success with a “despite everything that was holding me back” – how about we stop listing what we want, what we feel we’re owed, what we think we’re entitled to, and all the ways that we’ve unfairly had to make the best of a “bad situation,” and start narrowing in on all the self-sufficient ways we’re able to gracefully express who we really are?

originally uploaded by ollaollaolla for wardrobe_remix
This is my dear friend Olla. I haven’t see her for a while, but BOY HOWDY. She is sultry, squared in this demure, self-made frock. I expect that any second she’s about to break out in a Marilyn-shaming shimmy, leaving a legion of dizzy, swooning men in her wake.
Yowza. Apparently, it’s been brought.
Hey!
I love your blog!! It has helped me begin to tune in on what styles really work for me and fit my personality. Recently, I cleaned out my whole closet and got rid of A LOT clothes that I know I don’t wear. But also, i’ve been losing weight, and I don’t know what to wear during these in between times. I haven’t dropped a clothes size yet, but I know I’m close to it, so I really don’t know what to do! I kind of let go of a lot of my old styles, but am reluctant to buy new clothes because I’m afraid they will be too big for me in a few months. Do you have any suggestions?
Thank you,
Jo
Ah, the awkward stage. Nothing fun about being in-between. Firstly I should say that really, instead of “getting rid” of all those old clothes, you should have thrown a clothing swap, missy! Then we wouldn’t be having this problem. Have I tought you nothing? Well, make sure you do throw a clothing swap once you drop the full size and you’re set! I’ll forgive you just this once and try to help you out here, nonetheless.
I recently (accidently) lost almost 10 lbs. on what I like to call “the single diet”- I was newly single, and I hate to cook for just myself, am incredibly busy/lazy (case in point: it took me exactly 4 months to finish this post – Sorry Jo) and have no real schedule, so I end up living off mere snacks whenever I remember to eat. But I was able to keep a lot of my old clothes since I figured out a few tricks with some styles that still look good on me now that they’re a tad bit oversized.
You’re also very lucky because the oversized look just happens to be a la mode, as beautifully illustrated by Betty. Check it.

But if you are sick of your old wardrobe and really just want to show off your waning waist, here are a few pieces you can invest in to maximize your existing wardrobe and flatter your quickly-slimming new figure.
A corset belt.
Trapeze styles may be on the out, but you can still wear those overly-forgiving babydoll dresses from last year by cinching them with a wide belt. Get a nice statement belt that will make you feel like a stunnah even if you’re wearing your comfy “I’m bloated and lazy clothes.” You can also use it to cinch too-big pants and skirts into a chic paperbag waist.

la meow for wardrobe_remix
A cool belt paired with opaque tights or leggings is also a good way to convert your spring dresses and tops into layering lovelies for fall.

corazones rojos for for wardrobe_remix

fashionfillers.com
High-waisted skirts or jeans.
Tuck a loose-fitting t-shirt or frilly blouse into high-waisted vintage skirts or pants and you’re instantly tailored.

johnnycutcorners for wardrobe_remix
A cropped vest.
Give your too-big dress or top a little structure and a style-injection with a vest that hits right at the waist.

tralfamadarling for wardrobe_remix
Most of all, it’s good to be healthy but don’t be too hard on yourself and remember this:
You’re more beautiful than you think – the flaws that you believe are constantly glaring out at the world like a large goiter are most likely only visible to you. Be unrepentant. Be happy to be you. Wear your personality and creativity with the confidence that you know exactly who you are and what you love, and eventually your peacock swagger will appear, along with the realization that you really are precisely as hot as you feel.
SO TAKE A FEW CHANCES AND HAVE FUN SHOPPING!
Hey there!
First off, I’m one of painfullyhip’s avid readers! Keep up the good job! But in any case, I’m just needing fashion inspirations from the two of you when it comes to a pirate theme party. That perhaps can also involve easy DIYs. And for shoes, what do you think will be appropriate especially if I’m living in a hot sunny weather country? Eg; gladiators/ankleboots? Any ideas? Thanks a whole lot! =D
Love, Lis.
Arrrrrrr-righty then, Lis. I’m assuming you’re looking for Pirate costume suggestions, rather than the Pirate Wench variety? Because frankly? I think the concept of the bosom-laden, voluminous skirt-afflicted Pirate Wench was made up by Disney or Hallmark. Besides, androgyny is HOT.
Ruffled-front poet’s blouse (translation: “puffy shirt” for anyone who was born before 1986): find one at a thrift store. If it’s burning hot, try converting it into a halter blouse by cutting around the collar and over the shoulders, opening up the back.
Fitted vests: worn over ruffled top with fitted trousers, preferably…
Striped trousers, knickers with buttons or harem capris: I’ve seen striped skinny pants at Hot Topic and lots of cute cropped knickers at Target and Walmart… or sew a cinched and buttoned hem onto some cropped pants. Tie a long scarf around your hips to finish it off.
Hair wear: Wear a long scarf tied low around your forehead, trailing down in back, Keith Richards’ style and/or braid some thin leather laces found at a craft/fabric store and then garnish the ends with beads and feathers like this thingy from Urban Outfitters.
Obvious accessories: Hoop earring(s), skull scarf (circa 2006), parrots or anything with feathers or coins. Wear some smudgy black eyeliner concentrated mostly on the bottom lids.
Lastly: Pillage, plunder, rifle, and loot, but unless you actually are Keith Richards who by now probably has the liver of a Body Worlds cadaver, avoid an attempt at drinking an entire bottle of Captain Morgans. Yo ho!
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