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This photo makes me very happy – Spring has been brief this year (yesterday was 94 degrees!), so I am all awash in Summer fever. In fact, I’ve pretty much planned out my entire season and it totally includes you guys! After a trip to New York to see Mary Catherine on Broadway, Diana and I are out to prove we’re totally insane:
Get ready, America, because we’re going on a:

That’s right, Diana and I have never met*, but we’re ready to put that fact aside to hit the open road together for a 2-3 week US tour (starting in late June). We’re obviously pretty sure we’ll be able to stand each other and/or are not planning on kidnapping one another.
So what we want to know is…
Does your town, no matter how small, have the best thrifting?
We’ll be thrifting our little asses off and scouting picturesque locations for photoshoots of our finds so you can decide which town yielded the best results. We’re on a mission to find the best thrift stores in America.
If your town is chosen as the most thrift-worthy, you could win a very covetable prize!
So give us your hippest tips!
We are also looking for hip kids to host Painfully Hip clothing swaps along the way. Email us if you are interested in having a couple of highly entertaining thrift bloggers (and their photographers) over for some thrift-swapping merriment. Bonus points if you have a floor or yard we can camp out on! We will also be accepting tips on camping sites, local music, waterhole coordinates, kitschy points of interest, and excellent dive bar locales.
*EDIT: So in an unforeseen string of serendipitous events, it turns out that Diana and I are going to be in Brooklyn, Mary Catherine’s place of residence, AT THE SAME TIME. The Painfully Hip bloggers will all converge for the first time from May 15th-20th in New York!
Tell us: WHAT SHOULD WE DO??
Comment or email your travel tips to painfullyhip @ gmail.com!
Thanks in advance and all hail summertime fun!
Last week I received my first ever negative comment regarding an outfit:
Your blog is very well done… The photos of other people’s styles that you post are very creative and appealing. However, I feel that your style is somewhat average and bland. I don’t mean to be rude or anything, but it seems like you admire great and interesting fashion, yet your outfits seem typical and.. well, not so interesting. I was just curious as to why you don’t seem to take many risks with your clothing.
I hope you don’t take this the wrong way. Just some constructive feedback!
-Lenora
Gah.
As this was in response to my relatively adventurous turquoise leopard print dress and weird neon purple and yellow astronomy-patterned bag, I was a bit astounded at first. As I thought of ways to defend my shallow sense of dignity (not limited to simply deleting the comment and going on my merry way), astonishment quickly turned to defiance, then quietly to resolve. She was totally calling me out on my shit!
The reason I started this blog was because of my love of shopping at a time when I lacked sufficient means to support even a weekly thrifting trip. The only things I ever bought were clothes that were flattering, comfortable and timeless – pieces from which I could squeeze my money’s worth. My practicality (nevermind my lack of dough) was literally stifling my personal style. Blogging gave me a way to “shop” for things I would love to be wearing at that very moment, without creating a vacuum in my wallet. Plus it constantly inspired me to make do with what I had.
Fast forward one year. I had moved to a new city, the perfect time to reinvent oneself. But now that I could afford a few thrifting trips, I was having a difficult time kicking old shopping habits. My new business is based in fashion and design, so I always have potential clients on my mind when I dress. I found myself watering down my personal style in order to try and please everyone’s expectations – an impossible feat. Plus, because my first love is travel, I hate being anchored down with all kinds of stuff. So I was still being uber-choosy and erring on the side of practicality on any given day.
This blog has changed my life in a multitude of ways. My personal style has evolved faster than the Silicon Valley gene-pool. It has also literally helped me become self-sufficient and that has boosted my long-waning confidence. I owe it to my readers to practice what I preach.
So, Lenora, I’ve decided. I have sorta been phoning it in. And if I can’t take constructive criticism from a perfect stranger, who can I take it from? I wouldn’t have been so offended if I didn’t know deep down it was a little bit true. Thank you for lighting a much needed fire under my ass.
After some months of rabid thrifting and clothing swapping, I’ve now got enough signature pieces to put together a few outfits which encapsulate the many personalities of my personal style (whilst shunning my inherent habit of being too goddamn practical). I’m taking this as a challenge to come out of my closet and start baring my soft style underbelly. Be gentle with me.
Personality #1 – Blinding Color

leather jacket – gift
knit hoodie – flea market, 75 cents
green silk top – UAL, New Orleans $39
Wimbledon tennis shorts – Painfully Hip clothing swap in Chicago
houndstooth tights – Macy’s $7
red patent pumps (with chunky grey heels) – Marshall’s $19
feather earring – borrowed from Eve
Personality #2 – Mixed Patterns

little boys’ pinstriped blazer – thrifted $3
silk rose-print top – thrifted in Chicago $1
paisley print wrap skirt – Susie’s Deals $3
tooled leather corset belt – a gift from foxhuntvintage
cream cable-knit knee-highs – thrifted on the coast $1
stacked heel cowboy boots with cutout pattern – $1 (SERIOUSLY), the rummage room at Atelier!
(close-up of patterns here)
Personality #3 – Modernized Flapper

chiffon flapper dress (seen here sans jacket) – a gift from Michelle of LadyLanguage
leather belt – borrowed from Eve (her blooming baby is foiling her ability to don this awesome belt she bought in Belgium).
nude lace-up heels – thrifted in Chicago $2
Naik Fur hat – a gift! (available at Atelier for around $50)
Personality #4 – Self-Contradictory
(dressy vs. casual / masculine vs. feminine)

ruffled top- Rainbow in Chicago $10
Lucky Brand cut-offs – Painfully Hip Clothing Swap in Sacramento
I think next time I will wear this with more casual shoes and a grandpa fedora to balance things out.
(Photos by Rory Toolan)
The Glamourai wrote a great post on the same issue (in response to a negative comment regarding one of her fucking genius outfits):
“there really is such a
thing as dressing for YOURSELF. i like myself better
when i feel good in an outfit. i feel empowered by a beautiful
detail or a kooky print, and when it’s cold outside, i’d much
rather wear 15 different fun things than one big boring
sleeping-bag of a puffer coat. the more the merrier!!!
who gives a flip if someone else thinks it’s too much?
they don’t have to wear it.
…
‘the selfish pleasure i get?
it’s not in having someone make my photo in the street
(although that’s always flattering). it’s the way people in cafes,
subways, gas stations – and yes, on the street – smile and engage
with me. in a world that can be very isolated & disconnected,
where many people are living lonely, my personal style is a
language that i’ve realized enables me to make new
friends all over the world.”
I want to thank you all again (SO MUCH) for reading my blog and taking my word for what it’s worth, in spite of my lazy style choices of late.
Here’s to dressing for ourselves!
xoxoxo
so the other day a friend of mine was whining (i mean, cheerfully reflecting,) about how she never seems to find any of these so-called amazing “scores” while thrifting. we weren’t very far into the conversation when she turned on me. ”oh yeah… you’re the bitch who found the brand new chanel pea-coat for $6!” she said. i would like to note that she was not using her inside voice at this point.
she then demanded that i “hand over” my secrets.
some good came from all this abuse though. it got me thinking about all the “thrifting tips” i’ve come up with over the years. then i remembered how much i like making lists, and i decided to combine the two.
would you like to see it? of course you would.
diana’s thrifting tips
- go regularly, and go on off-hours. the first helps you acquire more goodies. the second is for sanity’s sake. seriously though, if you don’t go on a regular basis. you’re just asking to miss all the good loot. you can take this a step further and inquire about “restocking” day. as in, when do they do it? then mark that day down in your little black book and make sure you go.
- a lot of the larger/more “established” thrift shops – especially in bigger towns and cities – have “last chance,” “outlet” and “as-is” shops. what this really means is “this is the place where we send all the goodies that didn’t sell in our full-price shops.” (tucson has “outlet” shops for both goodwill and the salvation army. all clothes are $1-$3, except for on “half-price” day, which seems to be every day i’ve gone in.) i can’t even begin to explain how wonderful these places are. it’s amazing what treasures make it to these shops. the ladies at the goodwill outlet told me clothes only get one week on the full-priced store racks before they get bundled up and shipped to the outlet. (i didn’t tell my bitter friend this, but it’s not just a chanel that i’ve thrift-scored – i found a vintage burberry trench at one of these “outlets” recently, for $2.98. seriously.)
- make a list of what you need, and refer back to it to avoid stocking up on things you don’t need. also, racks of $3 clothes are not an excuse to inundate your closet with heaps of poor-quality crap. there is no excuse for that. maintain your standards, ladies.
- shop off-season. you’ll find the best deals and have a better selection to pick through. (winter coats are plentiful and purchased for pennies in tucson in august. i would imagine the same would go for vintage sun dresses during january in vermont.)
- give some thought to a “thrifting uniform.” you want to wear something that is comfortable and easy to try things on over. (in case of long lines for – or even non-existent – changing rooms.) i like leggings, long, slim fitting tank or tee-shirt style dresses, a loose-fitting cardigan and slip-on flats. if you’re not wearing socks, at least slip a pair in your bag for trying on shoes. not doing so is gross. and i will judge you.
- you can also take an even easier route and throw a flexible sewing tape in your bag for taking measurements right there at the racks. make sure you have accurate measurements of yourself before doing this though.
- approach things with an open mind. if you go out with specific desires – “i want a pale yellow floral house dress made in 1953. in a size small.” – you’re probably going to be disappointed. remember that things can be shortened, re-sized, altered entirely – by you, a crafty friend, or even a tailor. and even factoring in the tailor’s fees, it’s still cheaper (and cooler) than buying something brand new and mass produced.
- try to find shops off the beaten path. shops in areas with a high population of amazingly hip college students will be a) picked over, and b) pricey. look for the ones near ritzy 55+ communities. go wild.
- i’m a little nervous about sharing this last tip, out of fear of a good lecture from anyone will a little self-respect, but just hear me out, ok? flirt. not in that creepy, “unwanted attention” sort of way. i’m not even suggesting you give out your phone number. but putting on a big friendly smile and striking up a conversation with the occasional employee – male or female – will do some pretty amazing things. i’ve actually found this to be useful in all areas of life. my brother once told me, “you could flirt a dog out of biting you!” which i take to be a compliment. i don’t see anything wrong with securing a “50% off everything, just for you… shh!” by using some (genuine) friendliness. it is my opinion that it brightens both party’s day.
compiling all this in one place has given me an uncontrollable itch to hit up my favorite thrift shops right this second, so i’m out, guys.
but before i go, i thought of one more thing – bring your own earth-friendly canvas shopping totes with you, and stuff those, rather than taking plastic bags. but i’m sure you already do that, right? high-five!
If you like this post, make sure you check out Amber’s thrifting tips in this related post:
Ask Painfully Hip: How do you make great finds at the thrift store?
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Thanks for reading,
Amber
painfullyhip at gmail.com

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